Bloom or Bust?
Hello friends,
Spring in Portland is glorious. It is lush, colorful, and buzzing with lively energy. I am busy in my yard planting, weeding, and figuring out what to do with the plants that did not survive our harsh winter storm. I’m thinking about what is thriving, what’s dying, and waiting to see what will bounce back. If we look at our lives and relationships the same way, what would we see? How can we use this time of transition and renewal to take stock ourselves?
In what ways are you thriving?
What do you like about the way you look?
What resilience is showing up in the face of hardship and challenge?
In what ways are you feeling lost? Or lost a part of yourself? Does that loss feel like a burden lifted, a missing hole, or both?
What are you struggling with that needs a resolution?
As you think about these questions and your responses, are there any stories that keep coming up? For example:
“I wish I had more time. I’m too busy”
“If this person would just _______, I would _______”
“Nothing is going to change. Why bother”
“I can’t do anything right”
“Another thing on my to-do list”
It’s helpful to know what messages we tell ourselves over and over again. Those stories become well worn paths and it can be hard for our brain to see anything else. I hope these questions help you see your innate vibrancy and growth. If you are just seeing the weeds, it just means you need to take steps back to see the bigger picture.
Do you have a topic or question you would like me to write about? Let me know.
With loving support,
Mallory
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